EVERYTHING IS PERMISSIBLE… but not everything is beneficial

When is sex before marriage permissible?

Have you ever wondered why you don’t see any church weddings in the Bible? Some things to think about:

  • The Bible word sometimes translated ‘fornication’ does not mean ‘sex before marriage.’
  • In the Bible, weddings were purely secular.
  • Under Old Testament law, casual sex was impossible. For an unmarried man to have sex with an unmarried woman was to make an even more binding commitment than normal marriage.
  • In God’s eyes, a one night stand makes two people one.
  • There is a deep spiritual significance in a virgin bride shedding blood on her wedding night.
  • Christians are free to break many Church and Western traditions. (ref.)

Jesus said in Matt 19:4-6:

“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”

Are you getting it? Having sex is not just a pleasurable physical act, like eating a Krispy Kreme donut. Rather God made it to be INCREDIBLY SPIRITUAL as well! Two become one flesh! God wasn’t just trying to be poetic and romantic so as to make future church ceremonies sound good with this scripture. Your spirit joins together with your partner’s spirit, LITERALLY!

Therefore, a romantic relationship is also a spiritual relationship.

Why do you think it’s so painful to break up with your girl/boyfriend or why divorce is so life damaging or why rape victims will never be the same again? They’ve given a part of their spirit to another! Whether by choice or not.

When is sex before marriage permissible? According to scripture sex before marriage is not even possible. The very act creates a spiritual, marital bond between the two that is stronger than any public ceremony. (We’ll try to define “sex” in future posts.)

Why then do we treat sex so wrecklessly?

Question: Why do you think relationship break-ups, broken engagements, and divorce is so painful?

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Not Permissible: The promiscuous lifestyle

There’s a tongue-in-cheek saying one of my theology professors used to suggest to us: “Don’t have sex standing up–it may lead to dancing!” It’s a comical statement meant to shine light on a trend among many Christians: believers seem to be more accepting and forgiving of those involved in fornication (premarital sex) and adultery (extramarital sex) than of those who like to ‘shake their groove thang’ (whatever a ‘groove thang’ is).

No matter your view on the “righteousness (or lack thereof) of dancing”, Scripture is clear that any kind of sex other than with your husband/wife whom you’re married to is forbidden. There is NO place for it in the life of a follower of Christ. Just read these few examples:

Exodus 20:14–
You shall not commit adultery.

Mark 7:21, 23–
For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed the evil thoughts, fornications, thefts, murders, adulteries… All these evil things proceed from within and defile the man.

1 Corinthians 6:9-10–
Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God.

Hebrews 13:4–
Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge.

Scripture is clear that a sexually promiscuous lifestyle is detriment to a healthy spiritual life, and goes so far as to suggest one should check their heart because they may have fallen from the family of God (or were never in it, for you Calvinists out there).

It is my hope all of this goes without saying, and you all replied with a resounding DUH! as you read this. But having a sinful nature myself, I know no one is immune, no matter what influence your parents were to you.

There is no place for sex in a dating relationship! And it is the goal of this website and discussion to determine where the “line” is that should not be crossed.

Question: How far is too far when it comes to intimate relations with your boy/girlfriend? Where’s the line?

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